Sex in Japan – Part1

Look at the next chart with data obtained after asking to 411 men and 412 women married between thirty and sixty years old:


Title: with which frequency do you practice sex with your husband/wife?
35%:It’s been more than one year since the last time
10%:4 times a year
16%: Once a month
10%: Two times a year
3%: Once a year
3%: Everyday
10%: Once a week
13%: Once every two weeks

Data is from survey made by Bayer.

It makes an average of 17 times a year! That’s even less than the data that Durex usually publishes with his Sex Global Survey that is not only limited to married couples. Durex results gives always an average of 40-50 intercourses a year for Japanese people. Many of you are thinking that is not convenient to marry a Japanese girl… but maybe is Japanese guys fault, let’s analyze more data and see which are the reasons why Japanese data is so low.


Results from Durex published at Anan magazine. 45 times a year for Japan.

If you have ever been in a Japanese city you realized that it’s full of “clubs” and strange places, they have love hotels, used underwear vending machines, and many other things that give them an aura of being sexually active and perverted.


I took this picture at the entrance of one shop at Akihabara in Tokyo.


Vending machines with erotic DVD adds.


An Addman trying to sell sex related goods.

Let’s go back to the first chart and analyze why data is not matching with what we see, or maybe it’s Japanese sexual frustration that makes them to look for different things instead of using their couple. Let’s see some more data from the Bayer survey.

¿Which is the distance from your cushions?

  • Couples in their thirties: 54.5cm
  • Forties: 65cm
  • Fifties: 70,8cm
  • Sixties: 81.9cm

¿What type of bed do you use?
25% sleep in different rooms, or different houses because they are working in different places or whatever! (These are not included in the previous question 😉 ). There are around 30% and 40% of couples are sleeping at separated beds/futons in the same room.

One of the first times I entered a Japanese family home one of the things that surprised me a lot was that mum and dad where sleeping in different rooms. That’s not very common, but what it is pretty normal is that each one has his own futon or bed inside the same room. It seems like they are friends or siblings instead of a married couple. Japanese anthropologists have been studying this phenomenon for a long time, and one of the big conclusions is that They feel that when they marry their couple becomes part of the family, is like a brother or sister. And doing nasty things with your family members doesn’t seem right to anyone….

This way of thinking matches pretty well with the data in the first chart that if we observe carefully it shows that 58% of the Japanese married couples don’t have sex more than four times a year; those couples are considered “sexless” “セクスレス”, a new word/phenomenon that lately everybody talks about. They talk about the “sexless” problem on TV, magazines, newspapers… On Part 2 I will explain more about the “sexless” and other reasons why Japanese are always ridiculed in front of international statistics.

105 Replies to “Sex in Japan – Part1”

  1. Héctor
    Antes que nada déjame felicitarte por tu blog, muy bueno.

    Te escribo para avisarte de una pequeña errata ortográfica en la parte superior de tu blog:

    Did you know that there is a English version of Kirainet.com?

    Te has comido la n antes de English, sólo se pone la “a” sola si la siguiente palabra comienza con consonante, en caso de ser una vocal se le agrega una n.

    Did you know that there is an English version of Kirainet.com?

    Y como toque de redacción le qutaría el that, jaja pero peus ya es pura vanidad.

    Saludos desde México! Sigue con el excelente trabajo!

  2. Hey..Kirai Could you translate the second part please??…this is very interesting….Thank you in advance…^ ^

  3. hi,
    i don;t know if you’ve realised but when you click on the link on the left toolbar to this article, it will instead just bring you to the front page…

    so the only way that one can access this article is by clicking on ‘sex’ further down the page.

    oh, anyways, its been bugging me for a while now, but that girl in the photo that link to this article… who is she? i’ve definitely come across her before but it annoys me that i can’t remember her name.

    thanks for the article though… very interesting and good for debates 🙂

  4. hey
    i respect japan girl.If it’s possible i want to stay in the touch with one the the japanese girl or a women.

  5. I wants love girl. i am non married preson but i wants married. if any girl wants married with me please love me and send me mail.
    I am from Nepal. I like any girl. who wants maried with me????
    bless you.
    thanks.

  6. I wants married. i am from nepal. who wants married with me?? if any girl wants married please you send me maill fast.
    thanks.

  7. Sadly, older japanese tend to not age well…. thus sex sucks. Its hard to have sex when you ugly wife is too fugly to turn you on. I think they should just kill all the ugly people and start over. o.o Thats why there is so much child porn in japan.

  8. aoi_nisaI want to sex with Japan girl when I live in Japan
    日本人とエッチ が 好きです。

  9. 日本人とエッチ が 好きです 我草1

  10. From long time ago i have been searching for a study and statistics like this
    i consider my self an otaku, and i just want to know badly why Japanese people are so obsessed with erotic things

    so thanx man
    GOOD JOB!

  11. All want to do sex hahaha i can tell you ,, here you have to yous your hand ,that,’s a best way hahaha

  12. very> ham
    hahaha
    ………………….
    wan SEX go japan la …….
    but wan 1000000yen money = =no
    no money de ppl cnt go japan play T T

  13. 死变态!!!!!!!!!!
    日本人!!!!!!!!!!
    去死啊!!!!!!!!!!

  14. わたしも、おかしいとおもう。
    けっこう。問題だと思うこれ。
    変態で、浮気者/
    あたりまえのように、男尊女卑をする男のくせに、マザコンだったり、ソープへいったり。きゃばくらであそんでたのしんだり。
    女の前で、ソープの話を普通にしたり。
    日本人の女は、タイトで、セックスにはもってこいで、白人は、日本で持てることになってるから、いいかもね。
    まじきもいわ。。。。。。軽蔑する。

  15. ただセックスレスは、まじやばいとおもう。夫婦が、夫婦ではない。
    世間体のために分かれない、子供のためで、自分のためにわかれない、夫婦がどれだけ多いか。

    本当にきもちわるい。
    白人もきもいけど。日本人もきもい。
    グラビアやav、完全に社会がおかしくなりすぎて、
    良いことと悪いこと。の見分けがつかなくなったり。
    他の人もやっているからいいやという、
    自己責任の薄さにあると思う。

    子供のために結婚するも。おかしい。
    子供のために離婚しないもおかしい。
    というか、この記事でてる時点で、変な国、だよ、
    アジアの女は、売春女というイメージを、植え付けられたのは、マジでむかつくし。

    お国の人も、こういう人たちなんだと、思うと、本当にいやだね、。。。

    男の性欲や、女の性欲を否定しているんじゃない。
    性に関して間違えた方向を、完全に歩いていることを。
    私は、肌で感じていることを誰かに伝えたい。
    かわればいいが、

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